Soojin Kim is currently a sophomore at the Academies@Englewood. She enjoys reading, listening to music, and people-watching in her spare time. She hopes to make her writing interesting and thought-provoking for her readers.

Thanksgiving is just around the corner. As we approach this holiday, we are prompted to reflect on what we are thankful for. Typically, we express our gratitude for the people in our lives, such as family and friends. This Thanksgiving, I encourage you to not only think about those you are grateful for but also consider how you can strengthen your relationships with them.

One way to improve and deepen your relationships is by discovering your love language. A love language fundamentally represents how people express and receive love. Created by Gary Chapman—an author, speaker, and counselor—love languages are categorized into five types: Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Acts of Service.

The first love language is Words of Affirmation. People who use this love language enjoy encouraging you through texts, cards, or any other means. They actively listen to you because they want to empathize with your feelings. In return, they also seek encouragement from you. If you have a friend, family member, or partner who expresses words of affirmation, consider writing them a card, sending a text, or complimenting them in person. This will help them feel loved and appreciated in the same way they make you feel.

The second love language is Physical Touch. Those who express love through this language do so via body language and physical affection. Therefore, it’s important to reciprocate with hugs and kisses. In other words, prioritize intimacy in your relationship.

The third love language is Receiving Gifts. Some people find the act of choosing, giving, and even receiving gifts burdensome, especially during birthdays, holidays, or special occasions. However, those who resonate with this love language enjoy giving gifts regardless of the occasion. Be sure to express your gratitude and give them gifts as well. Meaningful gestures will make them feel loved.

Quality Time is the fourth love language. If you notice someone in your life who enjoys sitting down and chatting as a way to spend time together, their love language is likely Quality Time. With these individuals, focus on having uninterrupted conversations. Spending one-on-one time is essential.

Last but not least, the fifth love language is Acts of Service. People who identify with this love language believe that actions speak louder than words. Therefore, you should help them with chores or cooking, for example. Make an effort to lighten their daily burdens so they feel loved and acknowledged.

Generally, people tend to have one dominant love language, but everyone has some degree of all five. Understanding a person’s love language can help you better recognize and meet their needs and desires in your relationship.

So, this Thanksgiving, consider helping your mom in the kitchen as she prepares the turkey, sitting down for a chat with your cousin, or surprising your spouse with a small, thoughtful gift. It’s important to understand how you express and receive love. I suggest taking an online love language test and sharing the results with your loved ones. You will have one more reason to be thankful this Thanksgiving.