The Most Important Names: Doctors and Mothers

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Photo Credits: Mom and I Magazine

Introduction

If there is a name that resonates as the greatest in the world, it might be 'Mother.' Equally, if there is a name that symbolizes being the busiest, it might also be 'Mother.' Alongside, if another name can be considered both busy and great, it would undoubtedly be 'Doctor.' As we usher in 2018, we have planned a theme interview with four 'Mom Doctors' at Holy Name Hospital. Striving between the illustrious titles of Mother and Specialist, their stories resonate with everyone living as mothers, daughters, students, and professionals. Let's meet these remarkable individuals.

Interview: Life of Mom Doctors

Mom and I: Today, we have a special session with four mom doctors from Holy Name. Given the nature of their profession, one might assume that bearing the title of 'Doctor' is challenging enough, yet they also hold the title of 'Mother.' How do you manage your daily routines?

Hyun-Nam Yoon: I've lived quite a hectic life. However, since my kids are grown, I find it freeing. The morning prep is over and my day starts by heading to the office. Occasionally, I cook something nice when my kids visit home.

Ruby Kim: The challenges of motherhood often outweigh those of being a doctor. Academic and professional pursuits yield results through hard work, but there's no specific manual for parenting. Always questioning if I’m doing my best remains ongoing. Although I can't claim to be a 100% perfect doctor or mother, I aim for 80% in both, working to be a proud mother and an excellent doctor.

Sara Park: I empathize with that sentiment. As a novice mother to a 20-month-old, I find countless things I’m learning. Medical school has a clear path and guidelines. However, parenting lacks an exact manual, which makes it daunting. Despite the challenges of balancing both roles, I strive not to feel overwhelmed but to let things flow naturally.

Sohee Lee: I work part-time, which affords a bit more time, yet balancing work and parenting is constantly challenging. My five-year-old daughter dislikes when I go to work and asks if I must really leave. Each time, I endeavor to explain the importance of my work to her, gradually broadening her understanding despite her young age.

Ruby Kim: Additionally, it's difficult for me to find a community I can belong to. Full-time mothers seem to have a supportive network, but with my non-routine schedule, planning anything takes considerable time. Therefore, socializing with peers or organizing activities for my children is challenging, which often leaves me feeling guilty.

Balancing Work and Home Life

Many working women grapple with the dual values of career success and maintaining a happy home life. How do you balance work and family as women professionals, setting aside the title of doctor?

Ruby Kim: Like many mothers, I long to spend every moment with my children, yet I’m equally drawn to my work. It might seem harsh, but working is far easier than staying at home with kids. Hence, I hire help for household chores and dedicate my time to actively engaging with my children once off work.

Hyun-Nam Yoon: While raising my kids, both my husband and I were so busy that we had limited family time. Thus, we maximized our weekends together with activities everyone could enjoy, uniting our hobbies into shared family activities, which created opportunities for quality time even as they grew.

Sohee Lee: I married later, which allowed me to focus on family after reaching a stable career point. My husband is currently devoted to managing household duties, making things a bit easier.

Future Aspirations for Our Children

Can you tell us about your children's aspirations? Would you want any of them to become doctors?

Sohee Lee: My children are too young, but I wish to support their individual interests. I was the youngest of three, and my father had hoped one of us would continue his career as a doctor, leaving me with the natural choice—after initial resistance, hence my current profession.

Sara Park: Being a 1.5-generation immigrant, I self-funded my medical education through hard work. Now, I can afford to support my child's medical aspirations if desired. I believe in guiding them towards their true interests without the burden of educational loans.

Hyun-Nam Yoon: What's paramount is finding a path that fits each person. Our kids naturally became familiar with the medical profession, with my eldest becoming an obstetrician and others following medical paths. It's important to foster independence in their decisions.

Ruby Kim: Through playful interactions, I observe my children’s interests. My daughter has creative inclinations, while my son shows a keen interest in languages and cultures, suggesting future paths in teaching or cultural endeavors.

The Intersection of Career and Personal Identity

Beyond the roles of mom and doctor, who are you personally?

Sara Park: Outside work, I lack flair in many areas. However, I’m dedicated to exploring new interests like finance and real estate. Besides this, I enjoy playing the violin and classical music, reminiscing about my social days fondly.

Hyun-Nam Yoon: I enjoy adventures, having learned scuba diving in the '70s, which was quite rare, especially for women. My husband and I share a love for outdoor activities. I also relish cooking delightful meals for my children, creating enjoyable memories.

Ruby Kim: I value family and friends immensely, devoting all my time to them. I plan girls' nights and engage in various exercises, recently delving into K-Pop dance, which I adore.

Sohee Lee: I find joy in familiarity and stability, deriving happiness from family and work. Although separate identities seem unclear, these roles define me.

Conclusion: Looking Ahead to 2018

What are your hopes and plans for the new year?

Hyun-Nam Yoon: To use time more productively.

Sohee Lee: To spend quality time with family while continuing professional development.

Ruby Kim: Strengthening relationships with family and friends is a constant goal.

Sara Park: Wishing for more time with my child, discovering personal joys, and considering joining Ruby Kim in exploring K-Pop dance.

Moderator: Thank you to all the mom doctors for sharing your stories and insights. Your candid reflections resonate with many mothers and women. May you all continue thriving in 2018!